How Do I Help Her Help Her Self?

Question by <3 tember <3: how do i help her help her self?
so my boyfriend of 3yr’s mom is an alcoholic.. she is an amazing person, nice, giving, friendly(honestly will talk to anyone), Curtious, truthful (even when it hurts), etc. but has had a troubleling past with abuse physical and mentally which lead her to drinking… last labor day.. she said that she that was the last day of her drinking… she was gonna cut cold turkey, she already talked to her dr. and was going to group/one on one meetings to help her.. well after a month we found out she was sneaking beer when no one was home… or when she thought we weren’t looking.. she hid them in her bathroom, and drank from a Styrofoam cup w/ lid (we couldn’t see threw).. then on her birthday.. yestureday… she said that she wanted to have a few drinks b/c it was her b-day (she doesnt know that we know she drank before this day) so she bought the beer… not 1 six pack but 2 wich means she planed on drinking 12… wich up set me b/c i hate to see her put her self threw this.. she did so well and now it is back to step one… i understand her relapsing is normal and i knew it would happen.. but after watching her take beer after beer yesterday… and then seeing her pass out while we were watching a movie… i heard her opening a can in her bedroom today 🙁 it tear’s me up inside and i know it is hurting her kids.. they dont know she drank to day tho.. by bf was at work and i took the brothers out to the store and stuff… i wrote her a letter… just telling her that were here for her. and that it hurts me that she is sneaking around and lieing to us…/ not trusting us so she can confide in us… and let her know how much it is hurting the boys… she is not a bad drunk as in violent.. she is annoying but not bad… our main concern is that it is killing her.. u can see it…taking a toll on her… so i just need some suggestions/ advise…
have u ever had to deal with an alcoholic or were you one…
how’d u get over it?/ deal with it?

Best answer:

Answer by Sexy me
A family and friend intervention.

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