Signs of Addiction: Is He Mentally Abusing Me?
Question by Hontess: Is he mentally abusing me?
I have been with my husband for 7 years and married 3. We have a 2 1/2 years old and he has a 10 year old from his previous relationship. When I had my daughter I became Post pardum really bad. So I turned to shopping for comfort and am now addicted. So needless to say I am not perfect and continue to shop even when I don’t have the money. I am in therepy now b/c we a recently seperated for 2 weeks and he shows no signs of wanting to make this work even though he told the theripist he does. I am 20+ lbs. overweight and carry so much guilt. When we do talk it’s only about the baby and he carries so much anger towards me for my spending money. I try to be strong but it tears me apart every day. How did this become this way and how can I save our marriage, even if he’s being stubborn with his anger? I know I am one hell of a catch and I don’t know how to get back in touch with myself to better me? Please help.
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Answer by crazy8eddie
There is no easy answer, as I suspect your therapist is telling you. His anger is real and warranted. You have to accept that. Otherwise you can’t change. You might want to try “cold turkey”. That works for some addicts. Don’t shop for anything, ever. Let him do all the shopping. You make lists of what you need. This has the added benefit of convincing you are sincerely wanting to change and it puts some of the “rehab” on his shoulders, i.e. he has to do the shopping.
Weight, just cut out the beans, rice, pasta, and potatoes… it is pretty easy once you get over the cravings… This should be easy as you won’t be doing any shopping.
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